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2019 | 10 Lessons Learned...

2019 was my first full calendar year navigating the world of singledom for the first time in a long time. If I'm honest, it was a little scary, a little fun and sometimes a bumpy journey. It was an important year - a year of building new foundations and focussing on the things - and the values - that mean the most to me. This is my year in review - my 10 Lessons Learned in 2019, in chronological order.

1. Know that when times are tough they will get better. They do get better. Sometimes it just takes time. Time to process. Time to heal. Time to move forward.

2. Embrace the things you love. If you’ve found something you’re good at, or care deeply about, make the time to make it happen. Don’t make excuses.

3. Don’t be afraid to love and to make yourself vulnerable. These are the connections that help us grow and become better versions of ourselves.

4. Admit your mistakes, learn from them and move forward. There won’t always be a happy resolution. Life can be messy. That’s just the way it is. Be at peace with any mistakes you’ve made and find comfort in the lessons learned along the way.

5. Be graceful in defeat. It’s more important to be kind than it is to be right.

6. Lean on those close to you when you need them. Just because you can do it all on your own doesn’t mean you should do it all on your own.

7. Life can be gone is an instant. Embrace the world in all its complicated, imperfect magnificence, embrace new opportunities when they come along, and be grateful for all the things you have to be grateful for.

8. Don’t rely on someone else to fill your cup. Fill your own cup and share it with others.

9. Accept your life for what it is, not what you thought it would be. Life doesn’t always fit the mould we imagined when we were younger. That’s not a bad thing.

10. Try new things. Keep striving. Life is good!


Geoffrey Morley
Geoffrey Morley
Jan 01, 2020

Hi there Gary and all the best for the 20s decade. Your lessons of 2019 are extremely insightful and valid. No. 8 took me sooo long to learn but embracing it has been my liberation.

P.S. The boys seem to like a drink. I hope 5.5 months on the plateau doesn't equal great photos, wonderful experiences and a stuffed liver because we need the last to be able to live.

I look forward to your daily posts. Can you continue them after you're off the plateau please? And can I come to the plateau next wet season?

All the best



I just read these out to Janine and Chloe to share your inspirational 'Lessons Learned'. The reply I got from Janine to number 5 was "but I like being right". What chance have I got?

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